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Message: <blockquote data-quote="wstnodak" data-source="post: 177116" data-attributes="member: 513">[h=3]2. Projection.[/h]One sure sign of toxicity is when a person is chronically unwilling to see his or her own shortcomings and uses everything in their power to avoid being held accountable for them. This is known as projection. Projection is a defense mechanism used to displace responsibility of one’s negative behavior and traits by attributing them to someone else. It ultimately acts as a digression that avoids ownership and accountability.While we all engage in projection to some extent, according to Narcissistic Personality clinical expert Dr. Martinez-Lewi, the projections of a narcissist are often <a href="http://thenarcissistinyourlife.com/narcissists-projections-are-psychologically-abusive/" target="_blank">psychologically abusive</a>. Rather than acknowledge their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, malignant narcissists and sociopaths opt to dump their own traits on their unsuspecting suspects in a way that is painful and excessively cruel. Instead of admitting that self-improvement may be in order, they would prefer that their victims take responsibility for their behavior and feel ashamed of themselves. This is a way for a narcissist to project any toxic shame they have about themselves onto another.For example, a person who engages in pathological lying may accuse their partner of fibbing; a needy spouse may call their husband “clingy” in an attempt to depict them as the one who is dependent; a rude employee may call their boss ineffective in an effort to escape the truth about their own productivity.Narcissistic abusers love to play the “blameshifting game.” Objectives of the game: they win, you lose, and you or the world at large is blamed for everything that’s wrong with them. This way, you get to babysit their fragile ego while you’re thrust into a sea of self-doubt. Fun, right?Solution? Don’t “project” your own sense of compassion or empathy onto a toxic person and don’t own any of the toxic person’s projections either. As manipulation expert and author Dr. George Simon (2010) notes in his book <a href="https://aax-us-east.amazon-adsystem.com/x/c/QpoehxFUsQp_PeeHlpfbiXsAAAFdnorMBAEAAAFKAQzQgZQ/https://www.amazon.com/Sheeps-Clothing-Understanding-Dealing-Manipulative/dp/1935166301/ref=as_at?creativeASIN=1935166301&linkCode=w61&imprToken=Sa2f.GsUWRI9tVFRmM3HMw&slotNum=0&tag=thougcatal0c-20" target="_blank">In Sheep’s Clothing</a>, projecting our own conscience and value system onto others has the potential consequence of being met with further exploitation.Narcissists on the extreme end of the spectrum usually have no interest in self-insight or change. It’s important to cut ties and end interactions with toxic people as soon as possible so you can get centered in your own reality and validate your own identity. You don’t have to live in someone else’s cesspool of dysfunction.- - - Updated - - -Good story:::</blockquote>

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