I won't go into too much detail on my family and our issues, but I tried for years to do get together with my siblings. Start yearly traditions and such. But my siblings and parents don't understand that staying together as a family requires that ones own self interest needs to come SECOND to family things. Family things that you don't really want to do. When everyone isn't on the same page with making the right sacrifices, it makes it impossible to do anything.
I was the only one for years that made sacrifices to be with family and do things together. It has been hard on me when I am the only one that makes those sacrifices only to be ditched at the last minute. I've traveled to AZ many times, drug my family down there, took off work, missed things that I wanted to do, and none of my siblings have ever even made an effort to come to ND. And half the time I went down there I was the one running around trying to visit everyone. And if I didn't get around to seeing someone, I heard about it. It got so bad that I finally told my family that I am done and don't want anything to do with them (There's a lot more to this decision than just not getting together). Some of my family hasn't even made an effort to make things right. It has been kinda nice not dealing with all of the drama that comes with my family, but it cuts to the core at the same time.
The only reason that I say anything about this is in hopes that someone realizes that they need to start making more sacrifices to be with their family. Make it now because rifts in family relationships are not easy to repair. Give up your plans, miss the big game, or whatever, go hang out with family. Even if it is something you don't really want to do.