Divorced Dads

[bigv]

Tough spot for you...sorry you have to go through it. I am a teacher and see these things everyday. #1...make sure kids know how much you love them. Not through actions etc--Tell them! #2..can you meet with ex and swallow your temper and pride and politely ask/tell her what you see. Tell her how much you love your kids, that you love them as much as she does. But you sense an anger and disdain from them that you feel comes from her. Tell her she can hate you all she wants but BEG her to not throw you under the bus to the kids. You are their father and you want to have a healthy relationship. Tell her that their attitudes hurt you. Explain and explain again that being positive about each other is very beneficial to a child's well being. This partnership in positive workings aids in the overall mental health and well being of children. Be very forth write and ask her to understand and help. If she can't see the light...I don't know what to tell you from there. As I mentioned, I see this everyday. Take a deep breath and go talk to her without anger. I hope you can work it out.

 

[martinslanding]

Yep divorce is tough, way too many bad stories, not enough good ones. Kids/teenagers are tough enough in a regular home let alone a broken one. (however broken is almost the new “normal”)
With that being said this is what I have learned. Always love your kids and let them know you love them. It’s not always about material things but time, and even just a call or text. Don’t sacrifice your own happiness or a new relationship. Often times divorced parents are in such a tough spot we forget about our new significant other and how difficult it can be on them too.
Balance is key, easier said than done, I know. Kids are resilient and even though they live in the moment eventually they will figure out the big picture. Sometimes it’s better to keep them at a distance willingly then force them to situations all parties may regret.

Always remember “you” are the adult and adults have to make tough choices sometimes.

 

[Sum1]

Damn. I feel for you. Women are spiteful creatures. All you can do is continue is be a good father to your kids and be fair and reasonable with them.

 

[Skullet]

All of this has given me a much greater appreciation for my step kids. I suppose there is a silver lining in every cloud.

 

[LBrandt]

Love your kids always, wisdom comes with age and they will see the truth someday. Mine did. LB