I also know three people, 2 guys and 1 gal, who would have been parents at the age of 17-20 but went the route of abortion instead. I lost touch with the gal so no clue what she’s up to today. Both guys are now older, married, each has one child, and are they are great parents.
I bet most of us know someone (whether we know it or don’t know it) who made this choice. That doesn’t make it any more right or wrong…I’m just saying.
I also know (off the top of my head) 6 really close friends who chose to have their child when they were faced with a pregnancy between the ages of 15 and 18…long before they were ready for it. With the help of their parents they did their best. They all struggled and none of them (no surprise) are still with the other parent of the child. All had a hell of a time with co-parenting, especially getting along with the other parent of the child and with the child support and custody arrangements. However, a couple of those children have turned out to be phenomenal people…all grown up now and making everyone involved very proud. The grandparents played a HUGE part in this and the outcome was only this good in my opinion because of them. It is so good for a child to be surrounded by a loving, supportive family beyond just two parents. A couple of the others kids did not turn out so well. One is in prison. Another is just perpetually on the struggle bus and is not going to be getting off it any time soon.
An interesting caveat…ONLY 2 of those 6 folks ever went on to have more children.
Anyway, you just never know. I can only say no two situations are the same and I, like Allen, would not want to be calling the shots for them and am very glad I never had to be involved in a choice like this. Without a doubt, I was as irresponsible as can be in my younger day and I definitely put myself in the position where I COULD HAVE BEEN faced with the same situation. It just never happened and with the beautiful family I have now, I’m very thankful it didn’t.