A message for MEN...

[Jiffy]

Sandy Vaseline = feminist lube

 

[Bacon]

One word. College. If they aren’t screwed up in the head, they will be after a four year liberal college stint.

 

[MarbleEyez]

I’d like to add marriage was the worst ten years of my life. And my after divorce years have been my best. Having money to do what you want and the freedom to do it is hard to give up.

Why get married then? Was the writing not on the wall prior to getting legally married, or did things take a turn for the worst after getting married? And do not take this as a personal attack Sum1!!

 

[Allen]

Meet them, fall in love, bring them home, they divorce you and move in with Chad down the street.

That’s thinking for themselves in the truest fashion.

Bwah hah hah hah....

 

[Allen]

As a divorced middle aged man, Ive given up on looking. Since I’ve been divorced I’ve been on tons of dates and dated a few woman. None of which I thought “yeah this one is a keeper.” I always felt like I was settling. I’ve come to the realization that American women ain’t worth the drama they bring to the table. Especially in ND where every fat ugly 3 thinks she’s a ten. I’ve done some traveling and have come to the conclusion that ND most likely has the most fat ugly women per capita then any state in the union. Arizona on the other hand. Tons of aggressive hotties begging for your attention. Still come with drama but at least they bring thier hotness to the table. In ND I’d rather be peaceful in a fishing boat.

I will second most of this and expound a little on why the dating pool gets weirder with age, much weirder.

Near as I can tell, women in the second or third round of dating fall into one of three categories:

1. Irreparably traumatized from past boyfriends, whether the trauma is real or imagined remains irrelevant. You will forever pay the price for someone else's past sins.

2. Never been married or had children of their own. Quaint little group here, they usually just can't relate to kids and are either over-eager to step into a stepmom role, or they have some other weird little ideas on how to interact with those who live with you.

3. The "my kids always come first" subset. Probably my least favorite of the spectrum as they can/will/do put their kids ahead of you, and even worse...ahead of your kids. This will eventually drive you nuts, especially when you're footing the bill and yet you and yours ALWAYS lose out to whatever she thinks her kids want/need at the moment. This kind of favoritism in sleeping arrangements while on vacation, seating in the vehicle on the way to XXXX, etc, etc will get on your nerves.

While I haven't stopped enjoying female company, the old expression of a needle-in-the-haystack has never been more fitting. Another oddity of it all is that as my kids round into adults, I get some unsolicited advice...like "don't forget to use protection" when they suspect I'm headed out the door for more than just a beer at the local watering hole.

 

[Sum1]

Why get married then? Was the writing not on the wall prior to getting legally married, or did things take a turn for the worst after getting married? And do not take this as a personal attack Sum1!!

No offense taken. At this point in my life I don’t offend easily. To answer your question I don’t think anyone enters a marriage intending to get a divorce. At least not men. Women on the other hand I’m not so sure. Why the marriage didn’t work is a long story that I won’t get into here. I suppose before the marriage there were signs but I was blinded by love and getting older(30) at the time. She is the only woman that I ever thought “yeah I could marry this girl”. I was insanely attracted to her. To this day I’ve never been this attracted to a woman. The first year was great. My son was born and she quit being a wife and became a mom. Roommates with zero sex for years. Throw in a teenage stepdaughter. We couldn’t agree on anything and it just kept snowballing to the point of misery. The most miserable I’ve ever been and I’m sure she felt the same. The divorce couldn’t have been more mutual. It was like someone relieved a pressure valve. After we both decided that, yes we need to get a divorce! We met the next day for lunch and it was the best lunch we have had in years. We were both so happy it was finally gonna be over. I will say this, I was willing to stay in the marriage no matter how bad it got until my son turned 18 just to be there for him was my thinking. I don’t agree with that thinking anymore. I think we both wish we woulda ended it sooner knowing it would never get better. You think you’re doing a favor for the kids but in reality you’re damaging them IMO.

 

[PrairieGhost]

 

[Lycanthrope]

There is a lot of wisdom in that man

 

[ORCUS DEMENS]

The "good ones " that are in good relationships tend to stay in them/ This reduces the potential pool, as time goes on that pool continues to shrink. So mathematically, unless you already know a "good woman" who lost their partner due to unforeseen circumstances, good luck.
Yes baggage from previous relationships will always be an issue as time goes on.