Gotcha ndwalleyes, understood...
svnmag, when someone starts a sentence with "not to judge" or "not to be rude" typically the next sentence is a judge mental or rude statement... Such as when your mother in law states , not to be rude but don't u think you could have cooked something everyone would like... Much better examples but you get the point. So I inferred it was towards me somehow by the start of sentence. My bad
No offense taken Flinger.