I have not followed so not sure what happen here.'
But at my age with prostate concerns. If i have to pee i have to pee which may come on just like that. There is no holding it.
At that point it is either wet the pants or whip it out. I prefer to whip it out. Either way it will create a problem in certain situation, and it seems with little understanding from others of the problem.
It can bring shame.
If she does not have that problem and just, did it cause it felt good, well ok but some of us do have certain problems. As i understand she did ask.
I have an old buddy who has demonstrated little of that shame in front of me, however we are old, so it is all excuse with understanding. He usually tries to be humble about it as we all do. db