Hiding Purchases From Your Significant Other

[Duckslayer100]

I'm with juanr on this one: Don't keep purchases secrets. Especially big ones, like guns. You may not "ruffle feathers" now, and it might not be a big deal, but keep it up and it's a recipe for stress and negativity. Better off just being honest and open.

We have three checking accounts: A joint and individuals accounts for each of us. We both work full-time, and the majority of our paychecks goes into the joint account for mortgage payments, bills, food, car maintenance, etc. Our personal accounts are for whatever the heck we want and neither one of us can say diddly squat to the other about what he or she is spending their own money on.

It's saved us a lot of arguments.

My folks argued about money constantly growing up. I believe of all the fights I heard, 95 percent were money related. I swore I'd never be like that, and having the three-account system is a huge cornerstone.

 

[watson]

Three accts- one for the bills, one for her and one for yourself. After all the bills are paid we have an allowance every month that goes into each of the other accounts, as long as you have enough to buy what you want there are no problems.

 

[LOV2HNT]

After three years of marriage, we still have separate accounts.

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10 years of marriage and same thing, separate accounts. It works well for us, may not be for everyone though.

 

[SDMF]

Hey - I treat her really well.

You sound like you treat her like a child you're still trying to talk into believing in Santa and the Easter Bunny.

 

[wildeyes]

There are different ways to do this and doing what you are doing is not one of them. Trust is a huge part on being married this is not the way to start that unless you what to mess it up before it starts because believe me she will find out and that will suck. If this girl is the kind of person that you think she is just tell her and be good with that.

 

[Bed Wetter]

Practice saying this: "Oh, this? I've had this for a long time.."

Last summer, I made the mistake of spending some time in the garage, organizing tackleboxes, and crankbaits. I laid all of them out on my 16' long bench, and they covered it. My wife wandered out, and her eyes got big.

She said "man, at $3 each, that's a lot of money".

I said "yep, you're right...".

Had to move the gun safe once, which required emptying it. "There's gotta be a couple thousand dollars worth of guns here!!" She says. Hahahahaha! Yup, I paid about $80 to $100 apiece. I've since whittled down my collection. But it recently grew again. Weird...

 

[FishSticks]

You sound like you treat her like a child you're still trying to talk into believing in Santa and the Easter Bunny.

Pretty weak insult considering both of those things are real

 

[Bowhunter_24]

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Was that AR purchased with your money...haha
When a woman doesn't work, how did she get the AR cash? ah oh...:;:[/QUOTE]

HA yes. She "purchased" it with her credit card and I will pay the credit card bill in a couple days. lol

 

[bigbrad123]

Wife and I have separate accounts as well. We sit down and divvy up all of the bills and who pays what. I take more of the bills because I make more money. Fair is fair. But we do have a joint savings account, joint credit card, joint car payments, etc. After that, what she spends and what I spend usually isn't a fight. Often times what I do is start a little savings collection and tell her up front I am saving for a gun/bow/whatever. That way she sees I'm not spending it all right away and trying to save each month to do it. I may even sell a thing or two to show her I am "earning" the purchase. Best of both worlds IMO. I use my money, but give the illusion I am being responsible by saving for it for a few months.

 

[5575]

Scheels used to have a year long layaway program, it was the best thing in the world for things like guns and bows.
But now days when I want something pricey like that for myself I do other work on the side and save up to pay for it.
Don't start lying or hiding things from her because that never works out in the end.

 

[FishReaper]

been looking at new shotguns for a few years, wife said when i break the old one... anyone know how to kill a 870

in all fairness it kills birds just as dead as the beretta i was looking at. just not as shiney, but oh well.

buy your toys now, once kids come your priorities will change and fun money buys toys and mickey mouse fishing poles.

 

[Bowhunter_24]

been looking at new shotguns for a few years, wife said when i break the old one... anyone know how to kill a 870

haha you won't be getting a new one for a long time

 

[SDMF]

been looking at new shotguns for a few years, wife said when i break the old one... anyone know how to kill a 870?

Hacksaw, plugged bbl, cutting torch, or run it over with a train.

 

[johnr]

haha, I bought a .243 from a friend that needed some cash in a bad way, so I brought my new to me gun home and mrs johnr says, awesome, this gun will be perfect for me this deer season, what a thoughtful early birthday gift...haha

she claimed it before I could even shoot the damn thing. She hasn't deer hunted in a couple years, but it is still "her" gun.

 

[guywhofishes]

Hacksaw, plugged bbl, cutting torch, or run it over with a train.

let your nephew borrow it for late season waterfowl and put it away wet in a zipped up cheap plastic gun case

 

[watson]

been looking at new shotguns for a few years, wife said when i break the old one... anyone know how to kill a 870

in all fairness it kills birds just as dead as the beretta i was looking at. just not as shiney, but oh well.

buy your toys now, once kids come your priorities will change and fun money buys toys and mickey mouse fishing poles.

You could "misplace" it in my safe.

 

[FishReaper]

Hacksaw, plugged bbl, cutting torch, or run it over with a train.

some reason i think it might still work

 

[deleted_account]

let your nephew borrow it for late season waterfowl and put it away wet in a zipped up cheap plastic gun case

makes me cringe a bit

 

[guywhofishes]

makes me cringe a bit

key is to wait until next summer when you ask for it back and "gasp!" (wink wink) you open the case to find a fuzzy orange object better suited for a modern art exhibit than most of the "art" in the exhibit

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this method would be impossible to prosecute for willful destruction - just an unfortunate accident

 

[Fly Carpin]

My significant other just told me I should buy a new boat. Or at the very least a new outboard and graph/gps for the one we have. I thank my lucky stars daily